Pros and cons:
Printed invites and RSVPs vs. online trouble
Nobody doubts this is a digital age, but some things are easier — if not better — when done in more traditional ways.
Beautiful, stylish and printed invitations remain quite chic, but some engaged couples are moving toward online RSVP options. Trouble is, that doesn’t always work out very well.
“I’ve had two brides who were issuing invitations like a ticket and on the ticket were directions to respond on the Internet,” said Beti Emery, graphic designer at The Print Shop in downtown Petoskey.
One entire side of one couple’s family encountered problem after problem trying to RSVP online, while the other side breezed through the process.
“The older family members were experiencing trouble responding on the Internet,” Emery said.
And just because your 80-year-old aunt spends hours each day on Facebook, that doesn’t mean she won’t put your wedding website URL address in the Google search bar or fail to understand how a password-locked site works. In the end, the bride and groom may end up a month before the big day calling to confirm with the vast majority of their invited guests, anyway.
That’s why Emery recommends wedding invitations and printed RSVP cards continue to be used, especially for large, fancy affairs.
“If you’re having a large wedding, it’s more on the formal side. Even though we are in a technical age, I believe formal requires a written invitation and a written response,” Emery said. “And you need to be considerate of what your guests are used to.”
Kim Jones, owner of Copy Plus/Ink Spot in Harbor Springs, agreed with Emery that paper invites and RSVP cards are much better, especially for older guests.
“You have more of a paper trail to follow, too. Emails can get lost or deleted and once they are gone, they’re gone. I think printed is a much better way,” she said.
Jones said she can understand small, quiet weddings with just a couple dozen guests may be more suitable for online invitations and responses, particularly if all guests are younger and Internet-savvy. But even then, Jones said she leans toward more traditional ways.
“There’s something about getting that piece of paper in the mail that’s more special than somebody pushing a button online. But I still write letters to people and send birthday cards through the mail,” Jones said, laughing.
Contemporary wedding invitations and RSVP cards tend to mix paper styles, colors and textures, a departure from hearts and flowers on white paper that were more popular in past years. Jones also said some use postcards for the RSVP, a way to minimize paper resources and cut down on postage expenses.