The Toast: Who and How

Wedding toasts are a way to call everyone’s attention to the joy and love that has brought everyone together in celebration.

Who should give a toast at the reception?

Traditionally, the best man gives the first toast. Other members of the bridal party can join in, with the maid of honor being next in line. The groom may toast his bride and then thank his guests. The bride or groom’s parents may also like to congratulate the newlyweds and thank their friends and families for coming. All toasts except the best man’s toast are strictly optional.

Is it appropriate to ask people to make a toast?

If you would like the best man or others to make a toast at the reception, tell them up front and early on to give them time to prepare their speech. Remember giving a toast is optional, so if someone is absolutely adamant about not speaking at the reception, don’t push the issue.

When should the toasts be given?

Anytime after the guests have been seated. Toasting can also take place at the end of cocktail hour, to signify the start of the reception. Make sure you tell everyone giving  toasts exactly when you want them to start.

What is the etiquette for giving a toast?

When making a toast, the person should stand up, tap on their glass to get the crowd’s attention. However, at most wedding receptions the DJ or emcee formally announces the person when it is time to give the toast. Everyone should raise their glasses and drink after each toast is made.

How long should a wedding toast last?

Keep the toast short and sweet. A toast should be no more than 5 to 10  minutes long, but just a minute or two is sufficient. A short, concise speech will be much more meaningful and memorable than one that drags on and on.

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Do write out the entire toast and practice speaking in front of a few people or the mirror.

Don’t read the entire speech off of a paper.

Do use personal stories or humor in the speech to make it more meaningful.

Don’t bring up any past relationships, marriages, or overly embarrassing stories.

Do talk about your friendship with the bride/groom.

Do reflect on the history of the happy couple.

Don’t be afraid of showing emotion. Let your guard down and openly express your feelings even it seems sappy.

Do end on a serious and sentimental note. Express your hope that the couple has a happy, successful and loving marriage and that you can’t wait to see what the future  holds for the newlyweds as they build their lives together!

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